Truth 6: If they really knew you, they still wouldn’t care.
Let’s make this brief because it really doesn’t need much clarification.
You’ve heard this or you’ve said this. “I am a good person. I just wish they could see that. Then they’d understand.”
It’s important to be a good person. Who you are on the inside really is significant. It’s what makes you do good things for people and it’s also what makes you follow through with a bad decision. But regardless of who you think you are on the inside, it’s totally useless to the people around you because all they know of you is what you create.
You can say you’re a great carpenter, but you have to actually build something for that to be true. You can say you are skilled at marketing, but no one cares until you have proven results.
People form an opinion on you based on what you offer, what patterns you repeat and the actions you take.
You can tweet all day about the wonderful parent, teacher, wife and person that you are and how much empathy you have, but that’s not enough for people to care. Their assessment is based on your behavior and what you produce. Want someone to think you are a good person? Do good things. Want to prove to that you have talent? Do the thing you are talented at? Feel empathy for hungry children? Do something that will result in meals for them.
The harsh truth is that no matter what you are on the inside, you are only as good as what you put out.
Otherwise, they just don’t care.