Facebook has opened up this whole new set of standards in terms of relationships and etiquette.
People genuinely get offended when a Facebook friend doesn’t post a happy birthday on their page. I made a joke of this on my birthday, but the reality is, people are busy and I, especially, don’t expect others to remember my birthday or post a happy birthday even if it is sent by Facebook as a reminder – “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”
Seriously, though!
I admit, when I’m on hold or waiting for a meeting and I’ve gone through the emails or just don’t feel like looking at my texts, I scroll through the newsfeed and like my friends’ photos or comment on their posts or read the articles they’ve shared. I’ve learned quite a bit about my friends and the talent of badgers and what 7 foods to avoid due to Facebook. But, here’s what I’ve also learned. People are getting doggone crazy with it! Alongside the wonderful friendships and family relationships that have blossomed from simply accepting a friend request comes the loco.
(Case) When one boyfriend announced a beautiful birthday wish to his girlfriend, it caused the friend of that girlfriend to literally break up with her man because he DID NOT do the same (and point). His claim, “I’m just not a facebook guy,” didn’t satiate her fury.
Is this actually just cause to break up with someone? Could there be other hidden issues or could Facebook with its ever so popular existence and new social norm be the culprit of their demise?
It is not a valid reason to break up with someone. However, Facebook tends to lend itself to causing “issues” in a relationship for the reasons you mentioned. Being upset cause a friend didnt post a happy bday message or happy anniversary.
Case in point… My wife made a comment to me a few months ago, “You never post anything on Facebook about me or about us.”
And thats when the fight started. Do we really need validation in relationships from an “anti”-social media app? Relationships are hard enough on their own. Throwing facebook into the mix can make it even harder.
I make it a rule not to add any of my wifes friends on my page. Not because I am not friends with them as well but it clouds the friendship and can lead to disagreements between us and in turn between her and her friend.