I’m seeing it pop up in articles and posts a lot and I’m happy it’s getting addressed. It opened my eyes to my own behavior.
What appears at first to be a complaint might actually be an excuse or even more likely, a proud claim. God forbid you are not busy! That might mean you have no value to contribute.
“Sheila, how have you been?”
“Oh my gosh! Me too! I’ve been running around like crazy!”
“Well, better to be busy than not, right?”
And they part ways both feeling totally validated by their crazy “busy”ness.
But, here’s the thing. Sure, most of us are busy. We have things to do at almost every minute of every day that are important. Most of us are juggling several different roles and that alone is enough to be crazy busy. Add to that a crisis, illness, family emergency or car breaking down and yes, life feels crazy and busy.
But, here’s what’s entirely interesting to me. It’s the people who opt-in to activities that claim their crazy busyness the most. Those who opt to take on more business opportunities, opt to volunteer in their children’s classrooms, opt to build a home, opt to be in more social groups – it’s totally self-imposed.
This is a lot like me. I opted to have my own business. I opted to start another one. I opted to volunteer. I probably opt to do something every other day that creates this crazy busyness of life. But, I don’t want it to sound like a complaint anymore or an excuse or boasting because frankly, the more I hear other people say it, the more I realize how annoying I must sound. My busyness isn’t anymore validating than the next person.
I don’t appreciate it as an excuse for not being the best parent, partner or friend that you can be. For me, it’s about priorities. It’s why I have recently become so addicted to time management because I don’t want to be the person anymore who seems “too busy” to make time for the things and the relationships that are really important. Tending to those is the real success. That’s something to be proud of when you look at your life.
I’d love to see this change. Honestly, it’s the people that are clearly doing amazing things, but don’t announce their long list of busy items and actually seem to be calm, taking in each moment and enjoying the activities of life (aka busyness) and making time to enjoy people in their life that I am inspired by. Not the one that’s always out of breath and stressed because they are “running around like CRAZY.”