Raising kids is bittersweet. It’s amazing at times and down right hard at others. Above all, when you watch them learn a lesson and mature so that they are measurably different than they were the day before, it’s frickin’ awesome!
With four kids, there’s a lot going on at all times. But as a parent, I often find myself either giving too much credit or not enough.
“He’s not old enough to do that!”
“She’s way too old to be acting that way!”
“He’s way too innocent and naïve for that.”
“There’s no way she knows what I’m talking about.”
And then you get slapped in the face with reality each day. Without enough information we make assumptions, believe it to be true and then react emotionally and then boom… DRAMA!
The lesson it reminds me of is one I originally learned from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It’s the third agreement – Don’t Make Assumptions.