Remember your first heartbreak? Or maybe your seventh? Do you know the feeling of having your world rocked and everything becoming so surreal (like not in the good way)? Did you ever hear that there’s no guarantees in life, but still secretly believed there were guarantees with certain people or relationships only to be slapped in the face with reality? Tell me this wasn’t just me….
Most of us at some point or another have that what the hell happened moment and we hurt. We hurt bad. Some of us hurt so bad that we make the stone cold decision that we are better off to just go at it alone. It meaning anything. No more close friendships. No more intimacy. No more trusting anyone in business. “I can do this alone! I am my own island! And I’ll take ALL the credit!”
I totally get this mentality. Why bother with someone else if it’s only going to bring you pain in the long run? Ah, the good old assumption meets filling the unknown in with negativity. Darn these human brains! I’ve been there myself. I’ve operated in the you can only get so close to me zone. And maybe for some time it really served me well. I was able to form a good relationship and reunion with myself and I grew stronger and realized what I was capable of. But, that only works for so long. I need deep human relationships too much to have ever let this carry on. But, for some people, their experience was so intense that isolation appears easier. But is it?
I was recently reminded by a dear friend (and incredibly powerful Podcast guest) that no one wins alone. We are not meant to thrive alone. Potential is reached when the journey is shared. Behind every victory is a team, whether that team is 1, 20 or 100. Our character is shaped by the relationships we have, the depth of the bonds we make and the trust we allow ourselves to have in others.
It’s clear to me now.
Where do you want to go? And do you think you can get there alone?