38 years ago today, I was born, after 12 years of my mother trying to conceive.
I didn’t speak much for the first few years. “I can’t wait until she is talking to us!” my mom would say to my dad as I happily coo-ed in my car seat of the Honda Civic my dad traded in his green Corvette for. They joke about this now as it can become quite difficult to shut me up. Me… someone who was once so shy. I’m not confident this is improving as I age. The more I learn the more I can’t shut up!
Now, I could sit here and complain that I am currently only 2 years from being 40. But, in a weird way, while I joke about how awful it is to get older and throw in some self-deprecating comments to go with it… at the core, I don’t really feel that way. Perhaps, it’s because I’m my most happiest in life right now.
So, in honor of my 38th year and my wonderful parents for giving me life, I will share 38 marvelous things I have learned:
1. It’s okay to be strong, fiery and bold. Sometimes life calls for it.
2. There will be times that people you love get really sick. While you won’t know the right thing to say, just be there. They just want you to be there.
3. I am the biggest expert of my own body and health.
4. It’s okay to cheat and listen to audible when I only have 1 week till book club. The more well-read I am, the better conversations I can have. The better conversations I have, the more I learn about other people. The more I learn the better I feel, so read your books after every meal.
5. Despite getting teased for my super timeliness and/or tidiness, I now behold that being organized and successful at time management actually makes for more fun, dammit!
6. Procrastination never feels good, even though in the moment it seems like a good idea.
7. Nothing tastes better than that first glass of wine at the beginning of the end of your day.
8. Raising children never gets easier. There’s always some new challenge to replace the other.
9. Turns out, mom was always right. I can now safely give her credit.
10. Taking responsibility when you’ve done something wrong or hurtful is the fastest way to feeling better. It’s hard, but get a straw and suck it up.
11. 20 minute power naps should be encouraged everywhere by everyone.
12. At least once every six weeks, I need alone time with frozen yogurt, wine and a movie. It’s the cure to just about anything.
13. I save way more time having someone else wax my eyebrows and give me a manicure and pedicure than me doing it myself. There is no guilt anymore. I will continue to self pamper forever. #soworthit
14. No one really cares about the mistakes you’ve made. In fact, they learn from them when you share them. Bask in your imperfections.
15. Everything is fleeting. Marinate in this concept and life becomes so much easier.
16. I’d rather be hungry than eat bad food.
17. Giving the silent treatment never ends well. Be honest and open, confront the problem and it will be resolved way faster… says the queen of getting quiet when her feelings are hurt.
18. You’re either a pet person or you’re not.
19. Not washing make-up off of your face will not be the end. It’s okay.
20. It’s really important to get inappropriate at times.
21. A little crazy is a good thing.
22. A list is quite possibly the most valuable tool in my life. (outside of nap)
23. Beating around the bush is quite possibly the most annoying thing to me. I’ve done it myself and I hate it when people to do it to me. Be up front, it’s the way to go.
24. Some people just love tragedy, drama and the chaos. No matter how much they say they don’t… look at their pattern and what they consistently attract and complain about. If you’re over the episodes, steer clear. It’s simple.
25. In a relationship, learn what that person loves and needs from you. Give it to them. You will get so much more in return.
26. I’ll never be more coordinated. I’m clumsy (athletic or not); it will never change. I’ve finally embraced this.
27. Don’t judge other people’s journeys and their choices. HOWEVER, take note of a person who makes choices with evil intention or to purposely harm another person – learn from it and decide wisely, whether that person should be in your life.
28. As frustrating as it might be, sometimes now is not the time for something.
29. Before you reach out and help someone, ask yourself if they are helping themselves.
30. There is an answer to just about every question and the Google machine knows everything!
31. Creativity and inspiration happen when I step outside of my comfort zone.
32. I am at peace with my beliefs and my individual faith. It may be different than others. Respect theirs and your own.
33. I’m always one breath away from being in the moment.
34. It’s definitely way more fun to be silly than ultra serious, but serious has it’s place and time.
35. Never go a long time without being intimate with your partner.
36. Touch is the fastest remedy to disconnection.
37. If you love what you have and look forward to what you have, you are golden.
38. And finally, with family being such an absolute frickin’ fabulous blessing my life, I have learned this… A family that dances together sticks together. Have a family dance party at least once a month with your immediate family.
Special thanks to Paul and Jackie Singagliese for facilitating this journey of life and lessons. JGD