I hear this many times amongst the kids. “He started it!” “No, she started it by looking at me!” It’s kind of a necessary part of growing up. They must experience this game to know how ridiculous it is as they get older.
But, have you ever heard an adult say it? I did. And I about lost my sh*@ when I heard a grown woman say, “You started it!” It was in the context of her blaming someone else for all that was not going her way in her life.
It struck me funny this Friday.
Ah, good ol’ blame. It really gets you far in life. It definitely justifies bad behavior. In fact, as long as you are getting money, entertainment, attention, comfort and some sort of psychological celebration for it, then why not participate regularly in the act of blame?!
But really… Those that consistently blame others tend to stay in that position of blaming. I mean if it keeps getting them what they want, why wouldn’t they? They are quite busy in their constant behavior of setting blame that they really don’t see the truth in their actions. As soon as they do wrong, the blame process kicks in and every reason under the sun is used for why they were made to do it.
The funny thing (it is funny friday) is that the reason for this is not because they are upset about the consequences their actions caused, it’s really about protecting their ego. It’s a self-perpetuating, lazy behavior that continues because it brings more attention to themselves while at the same time trying to take away the attention from the negative effects of their actions.
“A man can get discouraged many times, but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying.” ~ John Burroughs
And here’s the thing about me… I’m really not that clumsy at all. I blame the floor, the shoes, the chairs and the pedestrians for getting in my way.