Sometimes when you give so much to people in your life, you risk losing value in their lives.
Have you found yourself in any of these situations?
-You’re out to dinner and you know your friend can’t fork up enough dough for the meal, so you offer to pay. After a couple more meals on you, she starts to look at you when the bill comes.
-You volunteer to walk your neighbor’s dog while he’s out of town. Suddenly he is going out of town every other weekend and puts you on dog duty with no compensation.
-You offer your nephew to take your car on his date since his car isn’t running so well and you know he wants to impress her. Suddenly every date he’s asking. “Hey, gotta a hot date tonight. Mind if I borrow the car again?”
-You get your coffee every morning and one day you decide to bring in one for your office mate and you add a bagel to be extra nice. The next morning you decide to it again. Before you know it, it’s been a week of coffees and breakfast for the two of you. When Monday comes you feel bad when you show up with only one coffee for yourself and she gives you questioning glare.
You fell into the dangerous expectation zone. You set yourself up to be accountable without even realizing it. And with
these expectations comes guilt when you don’t perform your usual acts of kindness. Ruh Roh :/
This Monday I am mad for y’all getting taken for granted. If this sounds like you, it’s time to take a step back and
remember why you did something nice in the first place. It was out of the ordinary and UNexpected, which made it so nice.
Sooo… do something nice for someone today, but be mindful of turning it into an expectation.