I’m seeing a lot of this lately.
-A woman upset that her father is showing no compassion about her recent break up and is instead telling her what she needs to do to get over it.
-A mother upset that her son is constantly forgetting all of his football gear at every game, even though she reminds him before they get in the car. “Uh huh, I got it.”
-The ex wife frustrated that her ex husband doesn’t know what time their daughter’s dress rehearsal is, even though she put it on their shared calendar.
-The wife who seems to be aware of where her toddler is at all times, but can’t understand why her husband is so oblivious to it.
Now, every person is different. Today, I’m just offering this alternate perception.
Could it be that…
-The woman’s father actually cares really deeply and doesn’t want to see his daughter in pain and this is his way of trying to help her get past it as quickly as possible?
-The son is a pre-teen with all kinds of things on his growing mind and he’s still learning how to be a responsible teammate, manage puberty and has a major mind altering crush on one of the cheerleaders?
-The ex husband is juggling so much at once and needs some clarification sometimes because he’s trying to do his best at doing it all?
-The husband feels less worried and has a lot of confidence in his toddler. He works a lot and has been stressed lately about money and feels his wife has everything under control.
Could it just be that there is a different line up of worries and what she is worried about more, he is not? Could it simply be that he is not a woman and his day runs differently than hers? Could it be that he isn’t programmed to be a girlfriend, so it’s hard to give the same advice a woman would?
Whether man or woman, we are quick to assume that someone doesn’t care, simply because what’s at the top of their mind in that moment is not the same as the top of ours. So perhaps, if we take that into consideration, the frustration may just simmer.