I frequently battle with not wanting to do certain things. I don’t particularly love folding laundry or taking the trash out. I also don’t love paying the bills or watering the plants. I really don’t like plunging a clogged toilet. But, sometimes, I just have to suck it up and do it. Responsibility. It can be a bitch. But, to me an even bigger annoying bitch is a lazy person that will just not do it at all.
Lazy has its days. Like coming home from a business trip and wanting to just lay around, watch movies, read a book, play on my phone, surf the web and not take a shower till 6pm. The laundry can wait. The art of doing nothing in all its glory.
But lazy shows up in different ways. Like getting all excited to follow a program or system and then neglecting it after you barely begun. It’s non-commitment. It’s saying you’re going to do something with conviction and then not doing it at all. It’s leaving things to the last minute. It’s doing something only because you really really have to and only because it’s going to get you a quick extrinsic reward.
And now I have to admit (and I apologize for offending anyone), consistently lazy people frustrate and annoy me. I think I actually have an allergy to them. Supposedly irritation is a form of fear. So, I had to look at this. My tolerance of lazy is next to nothing. It’s like even though they aren’t doing anything to take up any energy, they are so non-energetic that it drains the energy. What is it that I am afraid of? And I realized… the disorder makes me feel out of control. Busy lives require time management and systems. I enjoy lazy days and spontaneity, but in a structured form. I like knowing that things won’t fall a part when I take a hiatus. But, that’s not always reality. And ‘lazy’ just reminds me that it can all fall apart!
So then I dove in some more. Why are lazy people so annoying to me? And then I came to this realization…I think the biggest trait of a lazy person that annoys me is that lazy people generally want everything handed to them (#entitled) and then whatever they are given, they complain about. And this taps into another fear. Not being appreciated.
Unless you have responsibilities, you can really understand gratitude. I think that you really lose the experience of happiness when you are consistently lazy.
The Whine: If you really want something, you have to… you know, get up off your ass and actually do something. The intrinsic reward feels so much better than the extrinsic.