Well, hello again! It’s been awhile since my fingers visited this page. I had a really nice hiatus over the holidays from writing and work and probably checked in on emails just a few quick minutes per day. It was stellar. But, now it’s time to get back into action.
Ah the New Year. Time for people to join a gym, stop drinking, start a religion and get their finances in order. Hey, if it takes a new number at the end of the year to get you back on track then I am all for it. I am not immune to this craze. In fact, I have some decent experiments in process. I, too, am inspired by the new digits.
Now back to the habitual Summer blog rants. When something significant happens (big or small), I make note of it so that I can write about it later. As I’ve said before, writing, blogging, journaling etc. is all a means for me to figure ‘it’ out. So during the break, things happened that I noted and committed to writing about.
Today, I’m looking through such happenings on my notepad and I decided to write about an interesting situation that involves one person feeling compelled to butt into another family’s business. Basically this person received information about a member of the family and thought it was meaningful and important to share it with other members of the family. It began as it often does in cases like this, “I would want to know if it were (me/my child/my spouse….).”
I typically lean towards, “Stay out of it! It ain’t yo business!” Unless you have factual information, hearsay is irrelevant. It definitely didn’t go well for him. In fact, the moment after he interfered and received a response was the same moment he said, “I shouldn’t have said anything.” But, it was too late. The door was open and whatever was to emerge, did.
It’s a tricky thing. Often times, we think because we have information that someone else may or may not need, it’s a good idea for us to share it. We expect to be welcomed with trust and gratitude for sharing. Thank you so much for sharing this with me. You’ve changed my/our life for the better!
That’s usually not how it goes down. What ends up happening, I believe, is that somehow or another, the ego gets hit by the person getting the information. Because you somehow knew or thought you knew something that they had no clue about or didn’t want you to have a clue about, they have now been violated. They are offended and the good intention has been flushed.
I’ve seen it happen many times and it’s the experience of it that has led me to the conclusion to just stay out of it. We all get bits and pieces of information, but is it necessary to burden yourself with it? Whatever is going to unfold is going to unfold whether you interfere or not. The motion has been set and you may accelerate or stall it. Either way, let them deal with it, why should you?
As with everything, there are special circumstances and I’m sure the list goes on with those. But, I do love guidelines and this is one that has saved much drama. After all, I do love structure in my non-conventional life.