Life. It can be tricky, complicated, overwhelming and downright difficult. We tend to notice it more when we want something but we aren’t getting the results we intended. Things get in the way, upsets happen and suddenly you are ironing out a kink or putting out a fire and then struggling to get back on track. It’s all part of the game.
It’s the reason I appreciate and implement consistency. To be consistent is to be steadfast and stand firm. It means that even when things do get out of whack or don’t go according to plan, you know right where to pick up instead of feeling lost. Even when the tides are rough, you keep at it, whatever ‘it’ is for you.
I do believe that a main difference between failing and succeeding is consistency. Without this steadiness, it is easy to fall back into the old habits. And when those don’t work (again) you simply want to give up.
But, have you ever noticed that for the person who isn’t consistent, your consistency can annoy them? If you thrive on consistency, you will notice it more when someone is not consistent. You desperately want to tell them that the reason things aren’t going their way is because they’ve tried ten different things and weren’t consistent with even one of them. But, you can’t. They probably won’t receive it the way you hope because they are bouncing so many possible solutions at once, consistent with being ‘busy’, that your suggestion is just going to land somewhere else like the rest of them.
You can’t be consistent for someone else. They will probably get annoyed when you suggest consistency, simply because those who are inconsistent with things generally have a lot more chaos going on in their lives and for you to add ‘something’ more to their plate, is simply too stressful and ANNOYING!
Likewise you can’t have someone else be consistent for you. Being consistent means being a leader. You have to be the push behind the goal if it is you that wants to accomplish that goal. If you can’t control your own behavior, how can you expect others to control theirs? With families and in business, you can clearly see when something isn’t consistent. It happens with discipline amongst children in families, sports, health, fitness, culture amongst co-working teams and our overall well-being. Implementing structure to attain a goal and then neglecting it causes disorder. Disorder causes chaos and greatness comes from chaos when the chaos becomes so great that you decide to stop it. People that practice consistency are likely to thrive and achieve despite the struggle and challenge that comes with it.
I know this because I used to be the person who bounced around ten different ideas at once. Whether they were practices, fitness plans, boundaries – none of it worked unless I was consistent with it. The more I had floating around the harder it was to be consistent. If I’m consistent with my boundaries, I’m less likely to get rattled by someone I know. If I’m consistent with house rules and have control over my behavior, the kids are in control of theirs and there is more peace at home. If I’m consistent with my team, there is more enthusiasm for what we do. So for me, I choose consistency for the things I really want.
What do you say? Consistency effective or consistency annoying?