It’s Ego Check Time!
Have you ever found yourself in a moment where you think to yourself “Oh man, I wish I could go back in time and behave differently?”
There’s only one thing to blame for your behavior and no, it’s not because someone made you act that way. It’s that part of you that we all have – the ego.
The thing about ego is that ego just wants us to feel important. To feel important it needs acknowledgment and above all it wants acceptance. Ego makes a big bold appearance when we feel deficient in some way.
Some of us claim that we do not let our ego take lead, but are we sure? Just ask yourself if you feel better than someone or less than someone? Anyone? Anyone at all? Yes? Oh hello, ego.
That’s just one example.
Ego isn’t just about being an arrogant asshole. It’s also responsible for feeling badly about yourself or not good enough. It’s responsible for needing to feel right or acting out of desperation.
I know what it feels like to have ego take over and I’m aware of it. Being aware of it in myself also makes me aware of it in others. It’s such an uncomfortable feeling to watch someone totally consumed. It’s like ego is this bucket of anguish that they can’t seem to get out of until the bigger self takes over and puts ego to rest.
I overheard the battle of two egos at war this week and I cringed. I wanted to scream to one person “Don’t say it! Don’t do it! You’ll regret it.” But, she did it. And then I wanted to reply to other person, “Don’t reply! Keep your mouth shut!” But, it was none of my business and it had to play out the way it needed to play out.
It was, however, a reminder of what I don’t want to have happen. So I thought I’d write out an ego check.
How do you know if ego is preventing you from feeling happy? Here are a handful of signs to look out for to make sure ego isn’t getting the best of you. Awareness is the first step to fixing anything, right?
- Feeling better about yourself when you blather about others’ flaws
- Not backing down out of an argument until you win
- Comparing yourself to others… always
- Feeling jealous over other people’s accomplishments
- Blaming others when things don’t go your way
- Beating yourself over not being or doing good enough
Any of these in action right now? Take notice and gently put this beast to rest. It’ll show up again, but the sooner you take notice, the sooner you can shut it down.