I usually take some scheduled time to review my blogs and edit them before posting, but for lack of time and wanting to get this up, I didn’t edit. So my apologies in advance, but the good news is, it’s coming straight from my unedited heart.
So here it goes…
There are some pretty badass influencers out there in the world. Social media gives us the opportunity to say things that are meaningful to us and to create communities where people feel accepted, supported and inspired.
I, myself, have a list of male and female influencers that I absolutely adore and respect. I am totally inspired by them and so I follow and share what they post. Who doesn’t love a good dose of feel good vibes?!
But, I’m noticing in recent conversations that with so many people sharing, comes so many people that are quick to judge some of these influencers – their success and how they got there.
I realize that as an audience grows, more people are reached and those people will definitely have varying opinions. It’s inevitable that there will be positive feedback and negative feedback and sometimes just down right nasty feedback. I guess it’s the price you pay for wanting to reach more people with your message.
The biggest complaint I am hearing other people say about other influencers goes something like this, “She’s just copying everyone else.” Or “He’s trying to be Tony Robbins!” or “She just got lucky!” They are trying to discredit the person for what they share.
They spend a whole lot of time cutting up another person because it’s not the way they would do it or because they think someone else is already doing it.
I’d like to address this because it frustrates me. It frustrates me because we don’t know anyone’s journey to the core. We know what we hear. But, we have not experienced what they’ve gone through. If they have experienced something that changed them and they can take that something and spread messages that are important to them, why is that a bad thing? If they learned from some incredible leaders and teachers how to get through tragedy, crisis and hardships and then want to share how it helped them – why is that a bad thing?
Don’t we all learn from each other? Whether we agree on how one person does it or not, don’t we learn from it? There are many authors and teachers whose lessons have literally inspired transformation in my life. Have I agreed with each one 100%? No, I haven’t always. I have best friends that I adore and we do things differently. We parent differently, eat differently, view relationships differently and I’ve learned from them and I value their journey and their story.
Here’s an example. For years I’ve loved the saying, “It’s not happening for you, it’s happening to you.” I’ve heard it from about ten different speakers, but there were only two that made me hear it they way I needed to. They way that made me say, “Yes! It IS happening FOR me.” I needed to hear it from the right person at the right time to actually change my perception.
Sometimes you need to hear something from certain someone in order for it to take meaning for you. And isn’t it a beautiful thing that we all get a voice to share what we learn so that we can help others?
There isn’t just one orange juice brand or one type of chocolate. There are many, but each are just different enough.
I wish there was more grace given to the people bold enough to put themselves out there and turn it into something that helps other people. Who cares if he’s teaching the same business lesson as the other guy? It’s his experience with it and that is just different enough. More importantly, it’s just different enough to help the right person at the right time. What might not help you, could be life changing for someone else, so what if we stop cutting people up and just give grace?