Mike and I had a squabble the other day. Ok, fine…it was a fight. We had some teen issues caused by our inconsistency with rules, and it caused us to have a conversation about boundaries and how to maintain them.
In today’s episode, Mike and I will share the takeaways from our argument and why we actually found it to be extremely productive and effective. From it, we agreed to create an updated list of house rules that we both align with and will do our best to uphold.
Just because the rules may be different at your kid’s other home doesn’t mean that you can’t create your own. In fact, being clear and consistent with your rules maintains order in the home and gives your kids a sense of comfort and responsibility. Tune in to hear some of the rules we came up with in our home and get some ideas for your own.
01:30 – 03:00 – Introducing today’s topic: A recent fight we had about boundaries
03:00 – 08:30 – The takeaway of our fight: Consistency is important.
08:30 – 11:00 – Why arguments can be productive and effective
11:00 – 21:30 – The Moulder rules, what inspired them, and what they teach
21:30 – 26:00 – A recap on today’s show
- It’s important to communicate rules and boundaries.
- Rules and boundaries change as children age.
- If things slide, regroup and hold a family meeting to communicate changes.
- Consistency is hard but needs to be a priority.
- It’s natural for kids to test boundaries – be clear and consistent.
- Arguments can be productive and move you forward.
- You can deal with arguments in a healthy, effective way.
- Take responsibility and have an open mind.
- A budgeting system can instill a sense of responsibility in your kids.
- Check out the Cash Flow game to teach your kids budgeting skills.
- Go over expectations – for both parents and kids – and write them down.
- “Make consistency a priority.” -Mike
- They are clever little magicians trying to get around the rules!” -Mike
- “I like the way we argue because we are each heard in the argument.” – Summer
3 Interesting Clips:
- 08:56 – 09:38 – On why people end up fighting and how to deal with it.
- 20:30 – 21:30 – On giving more, contributing, and being considerate.
- 21:50 – 22:50 – A summarization of the show’s lessons.
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