Most of the questions we have been getting are related to high-conflict co-parenting from people who say they’re struggling with co-parenting with a narcissist. So in this episode that is what I will be addressing. And though I cannot tell you if you are actually dealing with a narcissist, I can help you with identifying narcissistic traits and dealing with them in a way that will move things forward and keep the peace as much as possible.
Listen in as I share how narcissists are affected by having kids, why what they say to you isn’t about you, and why it’s so important to have support in dealing with the related co-parenting struggles. You will learn strategies, tips, tools, and boundaries that will make the co-parenting process much smoother and more effective.
1:20 – 4:05 – Introducing narcissism and what it feels like to co-parent with someone who has narcissistic traits.
4:05 – 6:50 – How to work with a narcissist as a good co-parent.
6:50 – 9:00 – What a narcissistic parent looks like.
9:00 – 11:53 – What a great co-parenting relationship looks like.
11:53 – 29:28 – 10 tips to get through co-parenting as peacefully as possible.
Takeaways:
- How narcissism affects a parent or changes when a child is involved.
- Why a co-parenting friendship is not possible with a narcissist.
- The importance of finding a way to work together to parent in a healthy and productive way.
- A parenting style that results in less conflict.
- Tips to work through high conflict and offer as much peace as possible.
Quotes:
- “If you have ever felt terrified, humiliated, frustrated, and hopeless, you probably know what it’s like to co-parent with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic traits.”
- “A narcissist doesn’t see that there’s a problem with their behavior, which makes rational problem-solving nearly impossible.”
- “Dealing with a narcissistic personality is going to get to you. You need to have a sounding board, especially in the form of a therapist who is familiar with the narcissistic personality because they will help keep you sane and be there to reassure you that you are not crazy.”
3 Interesting Clips:
- 3:35 – 4:05 – Whether they are a narcissist or not—here’s how to deal with the traits.
- 7:10 – 7:36 – Why a narcissist’s behavior will often get worse with children in the picture.
- 12:25 – 13:10 – An app that will help you keep conflict to a minimum and communicate clearly.
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Omg!! I am 5 minutes Into this narcissist coparenting episode and it is exactly my situation, as if you’re in my brain and heart and taking everything out and verbalizing it for me on what it’s like to coparent with this person. I never understood why talking and having conversations was so difficult until I heard this
Oh I’m so glad we could shed some light! You are not alone!