Most of the time when you hear people talk about bullies, they’re referring to the typical schoolyard bullies, but the truth is that bullies come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. So in this episode, we’re diving into a different kind of bully: the adult bully.
Listen in as we talk all about how to know whether you’re dealing with an emotional bully and share some tools you can use to overcome the bullying. You’ll learn steps you can take to protect your relationship with your kids in spite of a contentious co-parenting relationship, why you need to stop apologizing just to keep the peace, and some things you need to let go of for your own sanity.
6:50 – 9:44 – How to co-parent with a high conflict personality.
9:45 – 15:30 – What bullying can look like in a co-parenting relationship.
15:30 – 21:29 – What you can do if you are being bullied.
21:30 – 23:39 – Why bullies do what they do.
23:40 – 27:09 – How to look for the silver lining amidst the chaos.
27:10 – 31:39 – How to protect your relationship with your kids.
31:40 – 35:25 – A note about apologizing only when necessary.
Takeaways:
- You cannot control someone else.
- Not everyone who is rude is a bully.
- The true intention of a bully is to bring you down.
- Don’t engage.
- Your relationship with your kids is most important.
- Stop apologizing to keep the peace.
Quotes:
- “You’re going to get really frustrated if you think you can control someone else.”
- “You cannot control a bully. You cannot change a bully. The only thing you can do is to keep yourself calm and level-headed.”
- “A bully is fuelled by this chaos and negative emotion.”
3 Interesting Clips:
- 10:30 – 11:30 – One of the biggest signs of a bullying relationship with a co-parent.
- 20:00 – 21:30 – How to use disengagement as a de-escalation tool.
- 32:45 – 34:40 – The difference between apologizing when it’s the right thing to do and when you’re just trying to keep the peace.
Links:
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- The Four Agreements – A Practical Guide To Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
- Everything Always Podcast Website
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